
Finally, I’ve got my car back. Sixteen months after a “mate” asked to borrow my Mitsubishi Verada wagon, he returned it this morning. Sixteen months!
It’s been a rainy day today so I haven’t inspected it yet, but I’m dreading what I’ll find. He is not known for being clean and tidy, to put it mildly. He says he’s done a cut and polish of the paintwork, and patched some small areas of rust, so we’ll see. He also says he’s done an oil change and new filter, as I asked him to. But he made a big point that it doesn’t use any water – so he never had to put any water in the radiator. That’s not the point – coolant has to be changed at 12 month intervals whether the level is low or not. Coolant is not just water – that green colour means something, it’s additive which is anti-corrosion. It needs to be renewed.
The other point is that when he borrowed it in February last year, 2022, I told him that the rear tyres are worn and probably not legal, and I said I’d want to replace them. “No, don’t worry about it” he said. So for 16 months he’s been driving it, on my insurance, on illegal tyres. He didn’t say he’s replaced them, so I’ll be interested to see what they’re like now.
Bloody hell! If the situation was reversed, if I’d borrowed his car, I would regard it as of the highest importance to return the car in at least as good condition as when I borrowed it, if not better. At least as good! I would never do as he’s done to me. It’s not as if I haven’t been asking for him to return it – I’ve been asking for it back for the last five months.
The result has been months of stress and anxiety for me. Worry about the insurance situation. It’s only on 3rd Party Fire and Theft, meaning that if he had a prang, the other party’s bills would be covered but not mine. Damage to my car would not have been covered. All depending on blame, of course.
So never again. This is not the first time he’s “borrowed” something from me and “assumed ownership” of it, meaning I’ve had to apply pressure to get it back. Well, this is it. No more!
Sun’s out now, so I guess I’d better go and have a look. I’m nervous about it!
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So what did he do about another car? He bought another one of the car that was written off in his prang in February 2022, a Mazda 2 wagon. That’s his third example of the same car. That means he’s got two dead ones parked in his back yard and now he’s bought another one! It’s taken 16 months for him to make up his mind to buy it.
I didn’t ask what he’s paid for it. I’ve been making it explicit for several months that I wanted him to buy the Verada from me, and if he hadn’t taken so long, I would have given him a good price, a big discount. But not now. He always made excuses why he couldn’t buy it from me, so it’s academic now, but grrrrrrr!
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People don’t return calls. I’m waiting on multiple people to call me back, as they said they would, but they don’t.
- Cardiologist – the receptionist didn’t seem able to sort out the appointments schedule, said she’d call me back. That was 10 days ago. No call back.
- A lawyer’s office, for an appointment. I phoned yesterday morning about 10am and I’ve heard nothing back. How long does it take to make an appointment?
- Some news about a delivery for my replacement dishwasher. It’s been nine days since they said they’d call me to arrange a delivery time last week. No call.
- Two mates who I thought were friends, to meet for brekky and coffee. It’s been more than three months since we last met and despite my repeated attempts to arrange a meet-up, I can’t get any answer back. I’m getting the message that they don’t want my company any more. Bloody hell! I try to be pleasant all the time, but I keep getting snubbed.
- It’s taking weeks to get in to see the GP (doctor). I’m in pain!!!! I tried to have a nap just now but I can’t lie on my left shoulder. Changing to my right shoulder doesn’t help. Taking the pain relief tablets that were prescribed a couple of weeks ago doesn’t help.
- Another long-time friend – two weeks ago I phoned her mobile, no answer, left a message, sent an email. No reply, no answer. Don’t people check their messages? Even if she’s away, surely she would get messages?
Get the message? I’m feeling very neglected.
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Re the dive on the Titanic and the loss of the “submarine”: the feeling I have, although I’m very sorry for the loss of those people, is that they were being nosy tourists and deserved what they got. They were being somewhat arrogant, trying to show how intrepid and brave they were. It’s a pity the vessel failed, but it sounds to me that they took too many risks, cut too many corners. They were warned that the vessel had defects. So, BANG! It failed as predicted. I can’t bring myself to feel too sorry for them.
The only consolation is that, as I read, they wouldn’t have known what hit them. As soon as a crack started, it would have been all over within 20 milliseconds or so, faster than it takes for a nerve ending sensation to reach the brain. They wouldn’t have known it had failed. RIP.
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I was always an anti-Brexiter. I groaned when the Poms passed the referendum to leave the European Union. It was the worst act of self sabotage in the history of the UK, a slow form of national suicide for Great Britain. It was crazy!
Sure enough, I would have predicted, grumblings are swelling in Britain. None of the promised benefits are coming to pass. Food is much more expensive, immigration has not slowed down, trade is grinding to a slow halt, it’s much more difficult to do import/export business, London has lost its status as the European banking capital and Britain’s reputation is sliding down the toilet. These are just a few of the negatives. I don’t think there are any positives.
As predicted, British people are starting to realise this, and the grumbles are welling up. Apparently 55% of Brits now regard leaving the EU as a mistake. No kidding.
As well, people are starting to ask, quietly, if it can be reversed. Ho ho ho! It’s only been seven years, but I don’t think the EU citizens will be too keen to let GB back in. Britain proved what many people thought, that Britain is an arrogant, difficult, selfish country, hard to deal with. Really? How can you think that? Tut tut.
I’m afraid GB is going to have to slide down the pole a long way yet before the EU would even begin to entertain the idea of reversing the Brexit process. And even if they did think about it, I think Britain would have to make some very big concessions. Very big.
What a crazy idea it was. Stupid, stupid.
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I’m very sad. I had a conversation with a long time friend last week about many things, but in particular about two things – (1) the referendum to allow an amendment to the constitution for a voice to parliament for Aborigines and Torres Strait Islanders, and (2) the apology that PM Kevin Rudd made to parliament in 2008 for the Stolen Generations (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apology_to_Australia%27s_Indigenous_peoples).
For people who don’t know, number 1 regards a referendum that will be held probably in October this year to insert a change into the Constitution that will allow for the setting up of a committee (a Voice) which will advise the federal parliament on matters affecting Indigenous people.
My friend is adamant that he will be voting No. He does not want this Voice to be heard. I am astounded and saddened. I can not understand how anyone can be so negative, so intransigent. Why? He seems to think this Voice or committee will have too much influence. At least, I think that’s what he thinks. I don’t think he knows what he wants. I don’t think he understands what the referendum means.
He says that he “loves” Aborigines, that he admires them and so on. But he doesn’t want them to be heard except in the way they are now. The problem is, the Aboriginal people are adamant that they are not being heard now.
Life expectancy 20 years below that of white people, many hundreds of deaths in custody (ie at the hands of the police), police brutality, awful rates of preventable diseases, terrible racism …. I can’t see that they are being heard or treated properly.
Yet he doesn’t want them to be heard any more than they are now, which is bugger all. I can’t understand his attitude. To me, it’s racism, pure and simple.
On the second point, the apology for the Stolen Genrations – to explain, up until around 1990, it was common for Aboriginal children to be taken from their parents and farmed out to white (European) families and institutions with the aim of supposedly giving them the chance to grow up as whites, go to white schools and to effectively erase their Aboriginality. Mostly they were prohibited from speaking their own language, forced to speak English only, and to dress and behave as Europeans.
But too often, the environment they grew up in was cruel, with beatings and punishments if they tried to assert their Aboriginality. If they ran away to find their parents or go back to their tribal lands, they would be rounded up, caught and brought back to their white “parents” or ther institutions they were confined to.
Naturally, this caused severe psychological and mental illnesses, distress. Many of these “Stolen” people suffered badly, and still do to this day.
Gradually attudes changed and it was realised the harm this had caused. The previous Liberal-National Party (conservative) governments refused to apologise, mainly with the excuse that they felt it would open the floodgates for law suits for compensation.
But really, this was pure racism. This was white supremacy. This was the attitude that “We only did this with the best of intentions” and we don’t feel we should have to apologise. So the L-NP governments, with that racist prime minister John Howard, took the lead in refusing any apology, despite a massive change in community attitudes in favour of apologising. In the early 2000s thare was a mass march across the Sydney Harbour Bridge to show public solidarity in favour of an apology. Yet Racist-in-Chief PM Howard went as far as actually prohibiting any members of the federal parliamentary Liberal Party from joing the march!!
Finally, in 2008 and with Labor back in power, the new Labor Prime Minister Kevin Rudd made an apology on the floor of the House of Representatives (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apology_to_Australia%27s_Indigenous_peoples). I thought it was dignified and reverential. I was proud to hear it.
Did the sky fall in? Did law suits start flying out of the lawyers’ chambers? Were there marches down Pitt Street demanding this apology be reversed? OF COURSE NOT!
Yet my friend mocks PM Rudd and doesn’t think this apology was right. Calls PM Rudd Elmer Fudd. Ha ha.
I’m very sad for him. He can dress it up all he likes, make any excuses, but to deny this apology is racism, pure and simple. I’m very saddened. It’s shameful.
There’s no doubt in my mind, Australia is still very much a racist country.









